I could have used so many C words for this post: Caring, Courage, Confidence, or even unConditional Love. What I realized as I was thinking through this post is that my BFF encompasses all of these characteristics, so I’ve decided to use Christine for the C in the ABC’s of Positive Thinking.
Everyone who wishes to live a balanced joy-filled life needs a Christine. This isn’t your soulmate, nor is it your child or parent or sibling, yet you consider this person immediate family. God purposely partners the two of you. You help each other weather life’s storms. You get excited when something wonderful happens for the other. This is a person who doesn’t have any reason to love you other than the desire to do so. This is someone you love just as much as he or she loves you.
I met my Christine in the lunch room at Warren County Junior High School in the seventh grade. I can still picture the suspenders she was wearing. Our friendship was immediate.
For years, our families had dinner together every Saturday. We painted Christmas ornaments in December and took our kids to Bing Crosby Park in the summer.
All these years later, Christine is still my BFF. We do not see each other nearly as often as we should. Life is busy, but in that busyness comes the greatest blessing that also serves as a great lesson: True friendship is not stressful. God helped us build an indestructible foundation. We don’t get upset with each other when we go too long without calling. We are not concerned that another will ever take our place. We trust the strength of our friendship.
I think of Christine every day. I love her just as much now as I did when we talked daily. Truthfully, if I came home from work and found her in my kitchen making a sandwich, it would be perfectly normal no matter how much time has passed.
A friendship like this knows no jealousy or conditions. It simply exists as the perfect sweetness that it is. It is beautiful and honest and pure. It is nonjudgmental.
My life is better for having Christine to call my Best Friend Forever. Perhaps, though, BFF isn’t enough. I believe she’s my SF, my Soul Friend.
Who’s your Soul Friend? If you don’t have one, it’s never too late to get one. You will be happier for such a relationship as the one I have with Christine.
Change your mind. Change your world.
Check back in a few days for The ABC’s of Positive Thinking (Delight)